© Provided by Associated Newspapers LimitedHelp! A woman asked Redditors for legal advice after her fiancé's dad handed over a prenuptial agreement with some concerning clauses
A bride-to-be is unsure of how to proceed after her fiancé asked her to sign a prenuptial agreement - that requires her to lose all of her baby weight within a year of childbirth.
The woman, a 29-year-old from New York City, posted on Reddit earlier this month to seek legal advice over 'some weird clauses' that her 36-year-old fiancé put in their prenup.
She said that in addition to stating she would get nothing in a divorce if she is unfaithful, the contract offers a monetary reward for every child she has while also demanding that she quickly shed any weight she gains during pregnancy.
Coincidentally, the woman posted her story on the site on Valentine's Day.
'My fiancé is a neurosurgeon and has been wonderfully successful in his field, so when he asked me for a prenup I wasn't too surprised and I am all for them actually,' she began.
'So I did the standard procedure and sat down with my fiance's father, whom [sic] is a lawyer, and he helped break it all down for me.
'My fiance put a few odd clauses in our prenup, such as an infidelity clause so if I cheat on him, I walk away with basically nothing.
While it certainly makes sense that such a clause might make her uncomfortable, it's not entirely unusual - though the next ones are.
"My fiancé mentioned that for every child I have for him, I get a chunk of money"
'Along with that, he put in a clause that stated that I have to lose any weight I gain after child birth, at least 30lbs of it in the first year following childbirth,' she went on.
Later, she comments with further details on this: They'd measure her pre-pregnancy weight, her peak pregnancy weight, and then do an 'annual weigh-in' to see if she has complied.
She'll have to either lose all the baby weight by the one-year mark or, if she gained more than 30 lbs., she will have to lose at least 30 lbs. after a year and the rest by the following year unless she gets pregnant again.
She went on: 'The oddest of them all to me is the compensation for children clause. I am not sure if I interpreted this correctly so anyone may correct me, but in the prenup my fiancé mentioned that for every child I have for him, I get a chunk of money, which to me doesn't sound legal but maybe it is?
'My main question is are all these clauses enforceable in court? What makes any of them invalid? I haven't signed yet and would like to get insight from someone other than my future father-in-law as I feel he may mislead me if his son were to benefit from it.' © Provided by Associated Newspapers LimitedRules: It demands that she lose all of her baby weight after giving birth, or at least 30 lbs. of it in the first year following childbirth
Nearly everyone commenting on the post advised her to consult her own lawyer.
'Definitely consult your own lawyer. Remember marriage is a partnership and you have assets to protect as well as he does,' wrote one. 'You should not sign his pre-nup, you should both sign a pre-nup that protects you both.'
'Definitely talk to a lawyer in your area before signing. Don't just rely on the internet. It will be money well spent,' wrote another.
Yet another was confused about whether all of the clauses were about just her behavior and suggested she had her own about his behaviour.
So for example, assuming you are OK with his stipulations, have counter stipulations - what if he cheats? What about his weight? (Men gain weight to!)
'And about those kids he wants you to have - what if one of you is infertile and you use medical interventions (surrogate, egg donor, sperm donor, etc) or adopt - are there protections or clauses for that situation? Are there other concerns you have?'
Several said that the infidelity clause and even the child compensation clause weren't too unusual, but 'that weight-loss clause sure sets off alarm bells.'
'I've seen a few compensation for children clauses, so I'd guess that is either common or at minimum; not crazy,' wrote one lawyer. 'The losing weight thing is insane. What is the penalty if weight is not lost... walk away with nothing?
'So if you ever wanted to get into powerlifting (and the muscle mass that brings), you can't with this guy,' he joked.
'Out of curiosity, is there a similar fidelity clause for him? What are the consequences if he has an affair?' asked another.
The bride-to-be has yet to update with further details.